You know the feeling when someone really hurts you? I don’t mean your feelings are just a bit wounded. I am talking about someone who completely rips out your heart and then throws it out in the street just to drive on over it again (okay, dramatic I know). If you haven’t gone through this type of heartbreak, I’m happy for you. It is one of the most painful obstacles you will ever have to maneuver through.
I’ve been hurt quite few times in my life by other people. Yeah, those have been sometimes damaging circumstances to work through. But, honestly compared to real heartbreak being hurt is a walk in the park. True heartbreak is something that I don’t want to ever have to go through again. But, I am SO glad I did. In the times where I looked in the mirror and tears were streaming down my face did I finally start recognizing who I was. In the midst of all of the pain, I realized that he wasn’t what I wanted and he lacked what I truly need in a man. It took time for me to heal and get to a place where I can say that I am fully over that part of my past.
However, for some time there was something holding me back….I wasn’t wholeheartedly forgiving. I was holding on to past resentment and it was not only hindering my ability to completely move on, but it was crippling my growth as a person. & sometimes I honestly believed I had forgiven him, but then I would feel bitterness towards him for breaking my heart. The truth was I had NOT forgiven him.
Until I was able to (with a lot of prayer) forgive him, I didn’t feel like I was able to move on entirely. & let me tell you…forgiving someone is so freeing. Whether they said sorry or not you should strive to forgive someone so that you can be free you from feeling that pain anymore. Sure, over time something might remind you of that person and you will feel a bit of a sting. But, it won’t be constant anymore, it won’t be at the center of your thoughts and feelings when you’re alone. Forgiveness will offer you more peace, hope and a brighter future.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Life as we know it is passing us by. We consume information day in & day out about the world around us. We often see the world through our eyes and perceive it just as we would like to. What we read and listen to can provide us room to grow or it can slowly tear a part who we are meant to be.
I talk a lot about the person we are meant to be because each and every one of us are here for a purpose. Now, just think about that for a minute….purpose. We are on this earth and were created for purpose. No matter how small, purpose is purpose. Just because not all of us will be lawyers, doctors or have some extravagant career does not diminish our purpose here on earth. Contrary to popular belief, our careers & upbringings do not define who we are or supply us with our entire purpose. Those things may bring us on our purpose driven path but in no way do they determine our purpose.
Do purpose and what we consume correlate?
In my opinion, yes. What our purpose is and what we put into our every day lives most certainly correlates. If all you are consuming is rap music and movies with heavy sexual content and language you are in a way changing your outlook on life. Okay, don’t get me wrong I do enjoy some rap music and some movies I want to see do have explicit graphics and or language.
But, let me tell you one thing; as soon as I started reading or listening to the Bible and books about spiritual or personal growth and integrating what I learned into my life did I finally see the growth in my character that I was longing for. When I stopped consuming so much television & social media and took time to read, self-reflect and journal did I actually start on what I believe is my purpose. Everyone has their own theory on how they can become their best self. But, why not take time to invest in yourself? One thing I invested in is spending long car rides to work or the store with something as simple as audiobooks. I promise you, the right audiobooks for personal and or spiritual growth will allow you to look at life from a whole new outlook and or be inspired in a new way.
My suggestion: To be more mindful of what you choose to consume. It doesn’t have to be a lot of your time but incorporating information for growth and diminishing time on social media and or television will provide you a better sense of purpose and self.
The relationships in your life can either draw you closer to your full potential or pull you farther from it. & sometimes it is hard to separate ourselves from toxic people or people that may not be necessarily toxic but aren’t good for us. It is often difficult to see someone for who they are. It is beneficial for your well-being & your future self to invest in good healthy relationships with other people.
The people you surround yourself with will be a factor in shaping you into who you will become. That it is why it is vital to incorporate the right people in your life. People who will expand your knowledge on an array of subjects. People who will enhance your spirituality. People who will push you outside of your comfort zone and force you to be a better version of yourself. You need these kind of people. & it will be in your best interest to strive to have relationships with people who only do one or more of the above. Choose to live a life with people who will offer you both joy and growth.
There are chances that each person is given in a lifetime. We have the chance to change lives, grow into ourselves and find what we are meant to do. However, I think there are a few chances that are once in a lifetime kind of chances. The chance usually requires us to take on a challenge we didn’t think possible. & those types of chances we just don’t get a do-over with.
The Chance for Potential Growth
These chances will most likely be at a time when you are least expecting them. It will be the type of chance that can change your whole life. Maybe it is risky. It is okay to hesitate at some of the chances that are presented to us. It is normal to be cautious about accepting something that may either make or break us. But, if there is something I have learned over the years, it is that I regret the opportunities that I didn’t take. Of course, there are instances that I disregard as “missed opportunities” because they have brought me closer to my so-called “destiny” or they were not meant for me to begin with.
However, those aren’t the chances I’m speaking of. I’m addressing the chances that we are urged to take. The ones that if we accept we know will bring us growth in unimaginable ways. It may scare us to undergo such a transformation. But, once we are able to welcome this opportunity into our lives we will be able to advance ourselves in ways we never thought possible.