Influential Relationships

The relationships in your life can either draw you closer to your full potential or pull you farther from it. & sometimes it is hard to separate ourselves from toxic people or people that may not be necessarily toxic but aren’t good for us. It is often difficult to see someone for who they are. It is beneficial for your well-being & your future self to invest in good healthy relationships with other people.

The people you surround yourself with will be a factor in shaping you into who you will become. That it is why it is vital to incorporate the right people in your life. People who will expand your knowledge on an array of subjects. People who will enhance your spirituality. People who will push you outside of your comfort zone and force you to be a better version of yourself. You need these kind of people. & it will be in your best interest to strive to have relationships with people who only do one or more of the above. Choose to live a life with people who will offer you both joy and growth.

A Selfless Life

The first few years of life people live selfishly. Not knowing the difference of course, but the motives of an infant and of a small child is for oneself. Most of the thoughts that surround our actions are how they will benefit our own well-being. However, as we grow up we can either adopt selfish behavior as part of our character or learn to gradually diminish the character trait entirely. Being selfish is not something most people aspire to be. We were not created to be selfish and to live life for our own pleasure.

Don’t get me wrong, being selfish can have “benefits.” You can choose to spend money on new clothes instead of on a present for someone else. Or you can choose to not spend time with a loved one in order to do something more enjoyable for yourself. The fact is that doing selfish acts will never be truly satisfying.  Giving someone your time or a small gift of love and appreciation will always bring far more happiness than what you could’ve done for yourself. God made us with the longing to love and give to others. And that is why it is so often a far more positive and gratifying experience to grant someone else your time or possessions.

Philippians 2:4

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

The Power of Hope

Without hope, life will lack purpose. It will not only lack purpose but it will dissolve who you are. A loss of hope has the ability to transform even the strongest people to despair. Hope is a part of human existence that many people may overlook. It is necessary to hope in order to live life to its fullest capacity. I believe that hope can bring us peace even during the most arduous circumstances.

Hope to have a better life. Hope to see loved ones again in a new life. Hope that life is extended beyond earth. Hope to advance in your career or exceed expectations of yourself for your loved ones and God. It is when we grow in hope and faith that we are able to see a light at the end of a dark tunnel. Hope grants us the strength to surpass the difficulties that lie ahead. We should use our moments of misfortune to truly grow in hopefulness. Hope will bring us a sense of tranquility in life that nothing else quite can. Through God we can find hope and faith and receive utter happiness.

Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

The Beauty of Friendship

Life has an immense amount of beauty. It presents itself in a variety of ways. The best beauties of life connect us closer to who we are and our true paths. One of the most astonishing beauties of this world is friendship. Significant others and family members can also bring us closer to a more elaborate understanding of ourselves. However, a good network of friends supplies us with the ability to take on life’s challenges even if the other relationships aren’t present in our life.

Friends are there for our deepest painful experiences and they cheer us on during our victories. They can become the light to our brightest destinations. When we establish a meaningful connection with someone else, we get the chance to cherish and enjoy unforgettable memories. Building valuable friendships with others allows you to enter your life journey at full force. There is beauty in surrounding yourself with people who compliment you, make you grow and transform your entire being.

“A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.” ~Douglas Pagels

To be Comfortable or to Truly Live

I believe that there is something that every one can work on in order to improve themselves. Self-improvement has essential external and internal factors that take place.  I think when we start being more open to creating new relationships, strengthening old ones especially with God and building confidence to do new things (aka external effort from internal motives) we allow a new potential in ourselves to be unleashed.

It starts with getting uncomfortable. It starts with granting yourself the ability to take on new opportunities. It could be volunteering at your local church or in the community. Taking on a new journey for yourself may require joining a new work-out class, cooking class or any kind of group you are unfamiliar with. It could be as simple as starting to say hi to more people and smiling more often and then just maybe having the confidence to start new interesting conversations. Living life truly and enhancing personal growth starts with stepping outside of your own world and embarking on the world around you. Whatever your comfort zone may be, step on out of it.

Not living for yourself but living to make a difference and seeing the world from a whole new viewpoint is imperative to truly live life fully. Stepping outside of your own realm will also give you the opportunity to learn more about yourself, meet new people and maybe even become acquainted with your new best friend or the love of your life. You never know what will happen until you look outside of your scope of life and into the lives of others. Live life truly and uncomfortably.

“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
― Roy T. Bennett

Fear as a Driving Force

Fear is experienced in every day life. Sometimes we may be scared to take on a new opportunity, talk to new people or to simply say no. Fear is instilled in every one of us. It is the fear of not being good enough in front of others that may makes us hide who we really are. It is the fear of failing or letting go that may make us stagnant through our life without ever truly growing or changing. We may miss chances or stay in a failed relationship out of fear. It is fear in every day life that makes some of us not live life fully. It is when we aren’t living life to the fullest that we often have regret later on.

However, fear is also what makes life so exciting and worth it. It is fear that allows each of us to learn more about ourselves and lead us to our life destinations. It is fear that can help bring us to where we are suppose to be. Fear can be discouraging but it is also uplifting. Because once you are able to get past what you are afraid of, nothing can stop you.

Lifetime Chances

There are chances that each person is given in a lifetime. We have the chance to change lives, grow into ourselves and find what we are meant to do. However, I think there are a few chances that are once in a lifetime kind of chances. The chance usually requires us to take on a challenge we didn’t think possible. & those types of chances we just don’t get a do-over with.

The Chance for Potential Growth

These chances will most likely be at a time when you are least expecting them. It will be the type of chance that can change your whole life. Maybe it is risky.  It is okay to hesitate at some of the chances that are presented to us. It is normal to be cautious about accepting something that may either make or break us. But, if there is something I have learned over the years, it is that I regret the opportunities that I didn’t take. Of course, there are instances that I disregard as “missed opportunities” because they have brought me closer to my so-called “destiny” or they were not meant for me to begin with.

However, those aren’t the chances I’m speaking of. I’m addressing the chances that we are urged to take. The ones that if we accept we know will bring us growth in unimaginable ways. It may scare us to undergo such a transformation. But, once we are able to welcome this opportunity into our lives we will be able to advance ourselves in ways we never thought possible.

God’s Plan

I feel like everyone has this idea in their mind about the life they want to live and the kind of person they want to become. Sometimes our life becomes blurred with trials, twists & turns. & we lose sight of who we are and what we need. God wants us to have everything He has promised to us. & that is why it is essential for God’s plan to be followed.

For me, I have always believed and valued God’s word. However, I didn’t live through it, I didn’t allow it to be the foundation of my life.  I could tell that I wasn’t as happy as I could be. & I was looking for fulfillment in all the wrong places. I was building an unhealthy attachment to people, places and things. I was seeking something I would never find in any of those aspects of life. But, I should’ve been seeking God and what he has in store for me.

I have been reluctant in the past to take on His path because that would require me to listen to all of His word not just the bits and pieces that align with what I want. I have learned over time that what I need is far more vital than what I want. Life isn’t meant to be lived to please ourselves. There is so much more to life than that. It is far more critical to look deeper and seek your spirituality and begin to recollect the person that God made you to be and the person you are suppose to become.

God’s plan may not be the plan you have for yourself. I know there are things I want that I may never receive because it is not what I need. & what I need is God & direction towards a brighter future through Him. His timing is the best timing. & not everything will always be good. But, I am willing to continue on His path & commit to follow His plan.

Love vs. Lust

In today’s society love and lust are easily interchangeable. There is a reason why people typically seem to “fall in love” faster than ever before. It could also be because of the way media perceives love.

Usually it goes like this: Boy meets girl. Boy and girl sleep together. Now, the next part can go one of three ways. The boy and girl could pursue something more, continue just casually sleeping together or cut off contact altogether. & then something confusing happens if the boy & girl continue to sleep together. Most likely they will start to develop feelings. It is easier for the girl to become attached during this time. Even if the guy isn’t good for her the girl will convince herself based on what she feels in her heart instead of listening to her mind.

Sex clouds judgement. It makes people think that this person is “the one” because of the sexual compatibility. However, sex can make us overlook certain aspects of a person. Sex is the most intimate connection to gain with someone. & therefore, it is what can make us stay blindly in a relationship not good for us.

Lust is wanting to be intimate with someone constantly. Love is wanting to be with someone constantly. Love is sharing experiences. Lust is sharing the bed. Love is caring and selfless. Lust is selfish and carefree. Love is patient and kind. Lust is what gives us false hope for the future. Love is what makes us believe in a future.

This is why sex is suppose to be saved for marriage. Couples who wait until they are married are way less likely to become divorced. Sex is what connects people. If you aren’t the kind of person who can abstain from sex. It is critical to at least really take time to know someone before moving forward to the intimate relationship you want. Sex can make you settle, rob you of happiness and prevent you from finding true love. It is vital to wait for someone that is deserving of your heart, mind, body & soul. Anyone can be sexually compatible. It is the way we are made. However, not everyone is emotionally and spiritually compatible for you. It is important to fight the urge and wait for as long as you can to make the decision. It will be in your heart’s best interest. & will save you a lot of heartbreak down the road.

Pray Often

Something I have had to come to terms with over the past few years is how people can easily come and go from my life. People aren’t promised in life to always be there. However, God has promised to always be there. No matter what He is here with me. He is there in my darkest moments when I am scared, anxious or upset.

I don’t always feel Him with me.  & sometimes I question His motives in my life or question who He is. But, He doesn’t stray away from me no matter what kind of doubts I may have. & in those moments of doubt I pray. Once I am able to gain more clarity I feel like I have a closer more fulfilling relationship with Him.

When I am feeling hopeless and confused are the times I should pray the most. Sometimes I don’t pray as I should or I ask for things that I may not receive. God knows what I need and He can give that to me whether it is what I have asked for or not. I pray because I feel relieved when I do. I pray because it helps me build a stronger connection with God. & I know He will be able to be there for me in a way that no one else can.

& I believe that no matter what you believe in you should pray. Pray for a better life and for your loved ones. Pray for a better world and future. Pray for positive outcomes and courage to push forward. Praying is essential for life and even if people don’t believe in God I would still encourage them to put their energy into the universe. God loves His children & I believe there are ways the universe gives back to what we have given it.

Isaiah 41:10

“So do not fear, for I am with you;
    do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

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