Living Life Patiently

I think demonstrating patience is one of my biggest weaknesses. There are quite a few instances where I can grow tired of waiting. & I know that I am not the only one that struggles with being patient. Our society lives for instant gratification. But, you know what I realized in all of the times I’ve had to wait? That I am practicing patience and in doing so it has strengthened my character and mindset.

There’s a reason why God usually makes us wait. When I get easily angered in my seasons of waiting, I take a step back & think, what has having to wait taught me so far? Take it as an opportunity to learn, grow and enhance your faith, who you are and other parts of your life. I would encourage you to seek God when becoming impatient. Don’t rely on yourself alone. Patience takes time to develop and a lifetime of practice.

Romans 12:12

“Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.”

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Begin Again

It’s okay to start over. It’s okay to not want the things you once did. It’s okay to not know exactly what you want in life. It’s okay to live your life the way you want to. It’s okay because this is your life. You don’t want to go back & see all the decisions you should’ve made or all of the things you could’ve done. You will want to reflect back upon your life & be proud of the choices you made.

The way you feel matters. The way you think matters. Who you are matters. Don’t get caught up in what should be or what could be, but look at who you are now. Concentrate on the person you have become, the way life is going in this moment & on the person God is transforming you to be. & if you don’t like who you are or don’t like what you are doing then begin a new you. Be more grateful, travel more & or do something you wouldn’t usually do. Live your life to its fullest ability. Do not be scared to start a brand new chapter with a different outlook on life. If you don’t decide now, you may never will.

Job 8:7

“Though your beginning was insignificant, yet your end will increase greatly.”

 

Forgiveness & Moving Forward

You know the feeling when someone really hurts you? I don’t mean your feelings are just a bit wounded. I am talking about someone who completely rips out your heart and then throws it out in the street just to drive on over it again (okay, dramatic I know). If you haven’t gone through this type of heartbreak, I’m happy for you. It is one of the most painful obstacles you will ever have to maneuver through.

I’ve been hurt quite few times in my life by other people. Yeah, those have been sometimes damaging circumstances to work through. But, honestly compared to real heartbreak being hurt is a walk in the park. True heartbreak is something that I don’t want to ever have to go through again. But, I am SO glad I did. In the times where I looked in the mirror and tears were streaming down my face did I finally start recognizing who I was. In the midst of all of the pain, I realized that he wasn’t what I wanted and he lacked what I truly need in a man. It took time for me to heal and get to a place where I can say that I am fully over that part of my past.

However, for some time there was something holding me back….I wasn’t wholeheartedly forgiving. I was holding on to past resentment and it was not only hindering my ability to completely move on, but it was crippling my growth as a person. & sometimes I honestly believed I had forgiven him, but then I would feel bitterness towards him for breaking my heart. The truth was I had NOT forgiven him.

Until I was able to (with a lot of prayer) forgive him, I didn’t feel like I was able to move on entirely. & let me tell you…forgiving someone is so freeing. Whether they said sorry or not you should strive to forgive someone so that you can be free you from feeling that pain anymore. Sure, over time something might remind you of that person and you will feel a bit of a sting. But, it won’t be constant anymore, it won’t be at the center of your thoughts and feelings when you’re alone. Forgiveness will offer you more peace, hope and a brighter future.

Ephesians 4:31-32

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Consume Information for Growth

Life as we know it is passing us by. We consume information day in & day out about the world around us. We often see the world through our eyes and perceive it just as we would like to. What we read and listen to can provide us room to grow or it can slowly tear a part who we are meant to be.

I talk a lot about the person we are meant to be because each and every one of us are here for a purpose. Now, just think about that for a minute….purpose. We are on this earth and were created for purpose. No matter how small, purpose is purpose. Just because not all of us will be lawyers, doctors or have some extravagant career does not diminish our purpose here on earth. Contrary to popular belief, our careers & upbringings do not define who we are or supply us with our entire purpose. Those things may bring us on our purpose driven path but in no way do they determine our purpose.

Do purpose and what we consume correlate?

In my opinion, yes. What our purpose is and what we put into our every day lives most certainly correlates. If all you are consuming is rap music and movies with heavy sexual content and language you are in a way changing your outlook on life. Okay, don’t get me wrong I do enjoy some rap music and some movies I want to see do have explicit graphics and or language.

But, let me tell you one thing; as soon as I started reading or listening to the Bible and books about spiritual or personal growth and integrating what I learned into my life did I finally see the growth in my character that I was longing for. When I stopped consuming so much television & social media and took time to read, self-reflect and journal did I actually start on what I believe is my purpose. Everyone has their own theory on how they can become their best self. But, why not take time to invest in yourself? One thing I invested in is spending long car rides to work or the store with something as simple as audiobooks. I promise you, the right audiobooks for personal and or spiritual growth will allow you to look at life from a whole new outlook and or be inspired in a new way.

My suggestion: To be more mindful of what you choose to consume. It doesn’t have to be a lot of your time but incorporating information for growth and diminishing time on social media and or television will provide you a better sense of purpose and self.

 

Choose Love

Loving your significant other, family and friends is important. It is not the only love that should be deeply considered in life. It is critical to love everyone. Okay, so loving people is hard, am I right? If you really think about it though, loving people is such an easy thing to do and brings some incredible happiness along with it.

When you love instead of hate you are able to let go of pain and resentment more easily that might be holding you back from truly moving forward in life. Someone may have really hurt you or completely broke your heart. Why not love them anyway? Love them because they too have been hurt and their heart will surely break in the future. Love people because loving takes less effort, brings more joy and expresses who you are. It isn’t about liking everyone you meet or staying in close connections with everyone you have completely been in love with. Love is caring and thoroughly acknowledges the existence of other people.

Everyone has their battle wounds. Everyone goes through pain. Everyone has a unique story to tell. So, love them for that. Love people because they are someone special to someone else. They are someone else’s reason to smile. Let the bitterness diminish and the love overflow.

John 13:34

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”

 

 

 

 

Influential Relationships

The relationships in your life can either draw you closer to your full potential or pull you farther from it. & sometimes it is hard to separate ourselves from toxic people or people that may not be necessarily toxic but aren’t good for us. It is often difficult to see someone for who they are. It is beneficial for your well-being & your future self to invest in good healthy relationships with other people.

The people you surround yourself with will be a factor in shaping you into who you will become. That it is why it is vital to incorporate the right people in your life. People who will expand your knowledge on an array of subjects. People who will enhance your spirituality. People who will push you outside of your comfort zone and force you to be a better version of yourself. You need these kind of people. & it will be in your best interest to strive to have relationships with people who only do one or more of the above. Choose to live a life with people who will offer you both joy and growth.

Life Online

After months of having my blog account private, I have finally decided to make it public (yay!). I think it will allow me to connect with other people (if other people visit my blog that is). I did have it public for a few weeks when I first started my blog. However, I wasn’t sure how much time I could commit and until I made more posts I didn’t want to make it public again. I was also skeptical about sharing so much about myself on an online platform.

Side Note & Further Explanation

I am not a big fan of social media. For example, I have Facebook and Snapchat but I refuse to have Instagram or Twitter. It took me awhile to commit to Snapchat. I deleted it three times before I was able to commit (sad but true). I have let the opinions of others rule my mind for way too long (or what I believed other people thought of me). In my defense, I was never a fan of how Twitter was laid out and so I wasn’t interested in investing time into it. I do give myself some credit because I did try out Instagram but I was in high school and I ended up comparing myself way too often to other people.

But, you know what I realized? Life online isn’t always glamorous and or posts don’t tell the whole story. People can make their online life reflect exactly what they want it to. & for me Instagram was a constant reminder of how I didn’t live up to this expectation or how I didn’t look like this girl or that girl. Okay, growing up as a chubby kid and working hard to keep off the weight is a struggle in itself. Not to mention the fact that looking at some Instagram models can be a reminder of where I wanted to be but wasn’t yet. Some people would call that inspiration, okay? Sorry, but that was not my take on it.

Yes, each of us has the ability to change our mindset. Yes, our happiness and perceptions on things are up to us to transform. With a changed mindset, I have learned to accept myself and what I do and don’t like. I am just not the kind of person who likes posting pictures often. I don’t like sharing much of my life. I do love seeing what my family and friends are up to so checking in on social media is a must for me to be able to keep up with people. Who knows maybe in a year or so I will give Instagram another shot and have the near to full ability to not care what people think.

On the plus side, I finally feel free from the pressure to post just to prove to people that I am doing things with my life (this has taken me years to come to terms with). I’ve realized, especially over these last few months that the times when you are really having fun you forget about your phone. There will be exciting moments where I will want to capture a photo for the sake of a memory but that in itself is the only reason I will take out my phone.

& I’m not saying social media is bad. It doesn’t make me better than anyone else for living my life free from posting all the time on social media. It just makes me a better version of myself & I’m happier because of it.

So, what does all of this have to do with blogging?

Social media gives people the ability to express themselves. I believe that blogging will supply me with the best online platform for expressing myself. Writing has always been an outlet for me to deal with heartache & pain. I hope that my writing will inspire someone or help them feel like they aren’t alone feeling a certain way.

Lesson Learned=Don’t feel obligated to do something because it is what everyone else is doing. Do what makes you happier and enjoy life the way you want to.